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Age Discrimination Starts Early! These Strategies Can Overcome It

Posted by Beverly Jones on April 5, 2011

Number 145

Are you starting to feel like your age might limit your potential for career advancement? If so, you are not alone. A variety of polls and anecdotal accounts suggest that age discrimination – while it may be subtle -- is widespread in the American workplace. And many professionals are worried about it.

And yet, if you look around, you’ll find numerous examples of encore careerists and other workers who demonstrate that your age need not limit your success. The trick is to understand the negative stereotypes, and then make it clear that they don’t fit you. Consider these strategies for avoiding the burden of age discrimination:

  • Look and act fit. Some employers and younger workers believe that their older colleagues may have physical limitations that will prevent them from performing their fair share of the work. And your boss or clients won’t offer you new challenges if they think you are about to have a heart attack. If you want to maximize your career options, it is vital that you not only stay healthy but also look fit and exude energy.
  • Talk healthy. Most of us have health issues from time to time, but we can manage the way they impact us in the workplace. Beware of sabotaging yourself by talking too much about your symptoms or crises. If you endlessly discuss your health challenges, not only will you be boring, but people may start to think of you as frail. Talk about the great hike you took last weekend, instead of how sore you felt on Monday morning.
  • Be tech-savvy. You don’t have to enjoy texting, Skyping or building a Facebook community. But if those are the ways that your colleagues or customers communicate then you absolutely must know how to join in. If you want to stay in the game, keep up with the technology. Take classes or find help, buy the devices, and do whatever it takes to keep your skills current. And when you don’t understand the latest developments, avoid the temptation to indulge in a Luddite rant. Express an interest, ask for assistance and get on board.
  • Be stylish. Looking shabby can seem cool when you’re 28. But the older you get, the more important it is to consistently look polished and up to date. If your clothes, hairdo and glasses are out of style, it may seem that you, too, are past your prime.
  • Don’t bring up your age. If you are older – or younger – than the people you work with, it is very tempting to keep mentioning that fact. But if you can refrain from alluding to the age difference, there is a good chance that other people will forget about it.
  • Build a varied network. If you are accustomed to hanging out with friends of all ages, you are more likely to blend easily into a group of younger or older people. If you don’t allow age to be a barrier in your social life, you will be more comfortable talking and keeping up with different age groups at work.
  • Listen to younger colleagues. A great starting point for building strong relationships is to genuinely listen to other people. Express a sincere interest in what younger folks have to say, learn from their perspective and be open to their new ideas. You will develop rewarding friendships at the same time you broaden your thinking.

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Celebrate Those Big Birthdays By Creating a Richer Life

Posted by Beverly Jones on March 15, 2011

Number 144

The prospect of turning 40 hit Sarah Brokaw hard. In her book, “Fortytude,” she writes, “we begin at age 35, with a sinking feeling in our stomachs, to recognize our own mortality. Our youthful beauty starts to fade as wrinkles become undeniable facts that we face every time we look in the mirror…Many women see 40 as the end of their attractiveness, their sexuality, their youthfulness, and sometimes even their creativity.”

As she approached 40, psychotherapist Brokaw was feeling like a failure, at least compared to the standard set by her extraordinary father, NBC’s Tom Brokaw. She started to panic, particularly because she didn’t have the “house-family-husband package” that she had expected.

It is tempting to dismiss Brokaw’s struggle with the Big-Four-O as an over-reaction. But her angst does seem real. For whatever reason, the prospect of her birthday threw her into crisis. What makes the book interesting is that she was able to work her way out of the downward spiral. She moved from wallowing in her supposed failures, to self-reflection and reinvention. She took a stand and said to herself, “This is who I want to be—and I’m going to go for it.”

“Fortytude” is the word Brokaw uses to describe the process of adopting “a take-the-bull-by-the-horns approach to life if you’re not happy with where you are, or if life deals you a particularly painful blow.”

Brokaw’s own process started sensibly, when she defined her five Core Values. She says that focusing on our most fundamental values “can help us to thrive, to lessen our fear of uncertainty, and to become curious rather than judgmental about where we are and what we have.”

The values Brokaw regards as core are:

  • Grace, which she describes as making peace with life events, even when things don’t go the way we want. Grace “is composed of generosity, forgiveness, and equanimity in the face of trying times.”
  • Connectedness, which reflects that humans are social animals, tending to identify ourselves by our membership in various social collectives. Brokaw believes that women, in particular, need the friendship of other women.
  • Accomplishment, which characterizes women who flourish into their 40s and beyond. A benefit of getting older is the sense of mastery that comes as we develop areas of expertise. An accomplished woman, Brokaw says, is one “who knows and appreciates what she is capable of, and sees the strengths in other women as well."
  • Adventure, which reflects a contradictory aspect of human nature. On the one hand, we want to "conserve", creating nests for ourselves and our loved ones. On the other, “we feel a pull to strike forth in search of new experiences that foster our growth. Adventure means not settling into a tired, old pattern but rather challenging ourselves to renew our interest in and enthusiasm for life by pushing out of our comfort zones.”
  • Spirituality, including “a strong pull to reach out to others in a meaningful way, and to connect regularly with a life force larger than our own.”

Brokaw says that when a woman embraces all of these five values, “she has a mental and emotional framework that empowers her to be her most authentic—and actualized—self.”

I agree that being in touch with values like these can help us feel strong as we face the future. But these five words might not be the right ones for you. However, you might use them as a starting point, as you treat the approach of your next birthday as a reminder to pause and reflect on the values that will shape the rest of your life.

Brokaw makes the important suggestion that once you define your Core Values it is important to write them down and look at them frequently. She writes hers on a white board, and every day places a checkmark next to each value, once she has devoted at least a moment of time to it.

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Your Friends Still Job Seeking? Here Is a Good Way To Help

Posted by Beverly Jones on March 1, 2011

Number 143

Are you trying to assist an unemployed friend? You might provide a great service by locating project work that he or she can take on while looking for a permanent position. Professional job searches can easily take a year or longer, and short-term projects can provide a bit of income to ease the pain. But there are many other reasons for a job seeker to adopt this strategy:

  • Stay in the flow. Job candidates who are engaged in even small projects are more likely to keep up with trends and developments in their field.
  • Try something new. A frequent mistake made by the unexpectedly unemployed is to keep looking for jobs much like the one they used to have. And those jobs might not be around any more. When they take on projects that are a bit different from what they are used to, they develop fresh ideas about their skills, their preferences and their options.
  • It may lead to something. All kinds of work is being outsourced these days, and sometimes full-time positions emerge from small contracts that grow into bigger contracts and trusted relationships.
  • Build a story. Potential employers will want to know how you have been using your time. You will be a more attractive candidate if you can enthusiastically describe the ways you’ve stayed engaged in creative activity.

Marcia Newell is the owner of The NewinCo, Inc., a well established Washington attorney search firm. She agrees that a good way to energize a job search, and improve the candidate’s attitude, is to line up interim projects.

Newell says that, “Although candidates’ expectations, attitudes and market approaches will not turn a bad market to good, the boost that can come from project work will give candidates a significant competitive posture and maximize their odds of receiving offers.”

“Another benefit of project work, including pro bono work, is the expansion of candidates’ networks,” Newell says. “People seeking employment must place themselves in a target-rich environment – usually not found when we’re sitting in our home office in pajamas.”

“Of course the electronic network can be implemented from home,” she says, “but I find that candidates have far more success in attracting/creating new job opportunities when they are out in the community actively engaged in … well, in anything. Oddly, there is a significant positive correlation for job seekers who avidly pursue a beloved hobby during times of unemployment. This supports the suggestion that a key to assisting job seekers is to help them keep up their energy.”

Staying energized and engaged in interesting activities may help candidates overcome a stigma that could be plaguing the more than 4 million Americans who have been out of work for more than a year. A USA Today story in January described the growing phenomenon of employers who are reluctant to hire the long-term jobless on the assumption that they are lazy, lacking in creativity or unwilling to work.

And often it is a third party, like you, who can help find the project work that will make all the difference to a job seeker. For example, you might notice friends or colleagues who are overwhelmed with work, and suggest ways that they could lighten their load by offering a modest consulting contract.

While you are working your network, looking around for possible projects, think broadly. Perhaps you know of a nonprofit group that could use your friend’s expertise. Could you raise some contributions that would fund a small contract, bringing in your friend as a visiting expert?

While you are thinking about options, consider the potential of internships. As mid-career job changes are becoming the norm, more and more older workers are gaining experience as modestly paid, or even unpaid, interns.

And at the same time you are looking for interim work, find other ways to help keep your friend stay involved in social and other enjoyable activities. As Newell suggested, job seekers who find engaging ways to use their time away from employment may be the first to be hired.

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Your Friends & Their Friends Affect Everything in Your Life

Posted by Beverly Jones on February 15, 2011

Number 142

Did you notice recent headlines announcing that obesity is contagious? Several studies suggest that you are more likely to gain weight if you hang out with fat people. The importance of social connections in the spread of obesity is just one of the topics being examined by the new science of human networks.

Two scientists explore some of the fascinating findings about social networks in “Connected – How Your Friends’ Friends’ Friends Affect Everything You Feel, Think and Do.” Authors Nicholas Christakis and James Fowler make a convincing case that, like schools of fish changing direction in unison, we are unconsciously led by the people around us. Here are some of their conclusions:

  • Our networks shape us. We all belong to social networks that have properties and functions not actively controlled by the people within them. These networks give rise to cultures that are more complicated than the participants realize, and develop much like a cake that becomes something greater than the sum of its ingredients. Humans are “ultrasocial” and our brains are deeply influenced by the networks to which we belong.
  • Our networks are smart. Social networks can manifest an intelligence that augments or complements individual intelligence, the way an ant colony can act smarter than the smartest single ant.
  • Happiness is contagious to three degrees of separation. Our emotions and behaviors are greatly influenced by the emotions and behaviors of those in our networks. You are influenced not only by your close contacts, but also by your contacts’ contacts, and their contacts, as well. For example, the authors found that a person is about 15 percent more likely to be happy if a directly connected person (i.e. a person at one degree of separation) is happy. But happiness continues to spread, like ripples in a pond. The happiness effect for people at two degrees of separation (the friend of a friend) is 10 percent, and for people at three degrees (the friend of a friend of a friend) is 6 percent.
  • Our networks can support change. We might be more effective in tackling social issues, like crime or public health, by addressing groups of people, and not just individuals. For example, to help people quit smoking or lose weight perhaps we need to involve their families, friends and even their friends’ friends.
  • Your actions matter. The authors say, “the surprising power of social networks is not just the effect others have on us. It is also the effect we have on others…The ubiquity of human connection means that each of us has a much bigger impact on others than we can see.”

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Does Your Job Give You Everything You Want? If Not, Take a Broader View

Posted by Beverly Jones on February 1, 2011

Number 141

We devote vast time and energy to our professions, and we expect much in return. But sometimes we aren’t satisfied with the deals we’ve cut. Even when the pay is good, our jobs may leave us feeling bored, ignored or frustrated.

Would you like to get a bit more out of your work? Perhaps more recognition or stimulation? Certainly it makes sense to seek ways to make your job more satisfying. But don’t stop there. It may be that some of the elements you are missing at work could be found elsewhere in your life.

If you are happy, healthy and engaged in life, you are most likely to thrive in your career. But you may have to look to additional avenues to find the fulfillment that will allow you to be at your best, both at work and at home.

Ask yourself about what is missing in your work life – like appreciation or a sense of community – and consider whether you might find other ways to attract those elements into your life. Ask these questions, as you explore ways to meet needs not currently met by your career:

  • Are you lonely? Research suggests that people are generally happier the more they socialize. Gallup data on well-being show that the happiest Americans socialize six or seven hours a day. If your job doesn’t offer satisfying interaction with others, look within and beyond your professional life to improve your social life. Schedule simple activities during the day, like coffee breaks and quick lunches. Join professional groups and committees. And drag yourself out of the office for regular time with friends and networking in your community.
  • Do you need more recognition and appreciation? High achievers often reach a plateau where they are still doing good work, but their colleagues are taking it for granted. They may enjoy the work itself, but they miss getting “A’s” and being thanked for their efforts. If you feel like you’re not enjoying enough respect on the job, reflect on whether there are other venues where your contributions might be appreciated. Consider service on a non-profit board, or find some other kind of volunteer work. Join a club or reconnect with your faith-based organization.
  • Do you need new challenges? We tend to get bored when we perform similar tasks for a long time. But when we are engaged in learning something new – even if it is not directly related to our jobs – we may develop renewed interest in our work. It seems that when we are in a learning mode we start to view old routines in a new way. We are more alert, and spot new connections and develop fresh ideas. So if you are bored with your job, you might create a change of pace by studying something new. Learn a language, pick up a new skill, or pursue an abandoned hobby. You can stimulate new energy at work by engaging your brain in new challenges outside the office.
  • Is your job too stressful? On-the-job stress tends to build with time. When we already are feeling stressed we overreact to emergencies and other new stressors and the pressure continues to build. We may reach a stage that we are so stressed we can barely function, but are feeling so overwhelmed that we don’t dare take a minute off. Research suggests that people in stressful jobs often improve their performance if they take regular breaks. So build in small breaks throughout your days with meditation, brief walks or deep breathing. And take regular vacations. Even if you think you are too busy to get away, you may find renewal that will allow you to perform more effectively than ever.

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Opening Your Mind to the Possible Can Improve Health & Performance

Posted by Beverly Jones on January 18, 2011

Number 140

In 1979, psychologist Ellen Langer and some of her Harvard colleagues conducted a landmark experiment intended to explore whether elderly people can start to act and feel healthier and younger if their environment is changed.

In what has become known as the “counterclockwise” study, elderly men were sent on a retreat where they lived for a week as though it was 1959. They read 1959 magazines, enjoyed 1959 music and TV shows, and were consistently encouraged to behave like people who were 20 years younger than their actual ages.

The researchers shaped an environment in which the participants were not treated as old, whatever their age. The men were encouraged to think of themselves as in their prime, as they had been in 1959. At the end of the week, they showed dramatic improvements in their hearing, memory, dexterity, appetite and general well-being. They stood taller, walked faster and spoke with more confidence.

Langer revisits the study in her 2009 book, “Counterclockwise – Mindful Health and the Power of Possibility.” She writes that in 1981 she had hesitated to fully describe her observations during the study, fearing that sharing her full story might cause the experimental results to be rejected. But now in this book, after 30 years of exploring how well-being is linked with mindset, she more fully describes the experience and its implications.

Drawing on not only her own research but also much other data, Langer makes an effective case that our beliefs and expectations impact how we perform, how our bodies function, and even how we age. And she challenges the idea that the limits we assume for ourselves are necessarily real.

Langer introduces us to “the psychology of possibility,” which “takes our desired ends as the starting point for change.” She says that once we realize that current “facts” are not immutable, possibilities present themselves. And, if instead of asking whether we can change, we ask how we can do it, then we can begin finding out.

One way that you might play with Langer’s suggestions is to challenge your self-assessment when you feel that your energy is low. She says that sometimes fatigue is a “psychological construct,” and that when we think we are tired we actually may be responding to external cues, like the time on the clock. So imagine how you would feel with more energy, start acting as if your energy level is indeed higher, and see what happens.

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