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Dear Friends and Clients,

One day last week, it seemed like everything was going wrong. To start the day, our Internet connection died before I could send a promised document, the painter found evidence of water damage, and one of the dogs peed in the basement.

As the news grew worse on multiple fronts, I found myself looking for additional evidence of a downward spiral. In my mind, a voice rehearsed a tale of woe that would convince my poor husband that this was a really bad day.

Fortunately, I heard myself whining and knew that I should stop that line of thought. As I’ve observed with clients, predictions of a downward trend can turn out to be self-fulfilling. If you predict that the day will go from bad to worse then it probably will.

So I reminded myself of the “Law of Attraction,” which says that if you focus on something you’ll tend to bring it into your life. I visualized the day ending in better ways than it started, and that is actually how it played out. There is a lot of power in the dictum that you will attract that to which you pay attention, and that is what I’ll talk about in this issue.

Warmly, Bev


It’s No Secret –
You Can Attract
More of What You Want

September 5th, 2007 * Number 66

The Law of Attraction suggests that your current thoughts will help to shape your future life. For example, if you stay focused on positive goals, you can help to bring them to fruition. But if you allow yourself to be overwhelmed by worries and dire predictions, negative outcomes are more likely to occur.

The Law of Attraction has been stated in many ways, including these:

  • “If you see it in your mind, you’ll hold it in your hand.”
  • “Your thoughts are like a magnet, attracting both good and bad into your life.”
  • “Name it to claim it.”
  • “Like attracts like.”
  • “Thoughts become things.”
  • I like the version used by Michael J. Losier in his book, Law of Attraction; “I attract to my life whatever I give my attention, energy and focus to, whether positive or negative.”

    In her best-selling book (and film), The Secret, Rhonda Byrne equates the Law of Attraction with an immutable law of creation. She says that “when you become aware of this great law then you become aware of how incredibly powerful you are, to be able to THINK your life into existence.”

    Byrnes’ controversial book has certainly raised awareness of the Law of Attraction.  At the same time, however, the book has several flaws that may make the Law sound ridiculous. 

    First, Byrnes quotes “experts” who suggest that the Law once was known by only a privileged few who wanted to keep the knowledge away from the masses.  While science has stimulated new interest in how it might work, the Law in some form has long been embraced by many religious and philosophical traditions. 

    Second, Byrnes’ book overstates the power of the Law, suggesting that everything you want is there for the taking.  Certainly visualizing what you want is a critical step, but it is also necessary to commit yourself to action and to be flexible when you are faced with the unexpected.

    It is another area of overstatement that may have aroused the book’s loudest detractors.  Byrnes focuses on the increasingly mainstream view that the mind and body are deeply linked, and that your attitudes can impact your health.  Critics have said that the book goes too far, however, and might encourage victims of serious illness to forego treatment.  Similarly, detractors have said that the book could frighten readers into believing that a few negative thoughts might develop into terminal illness. 

    I believe that the Law of Attraction is a useful principle, and a reasonable application might make a big difference in your work and broader life.  If you are looking for a useful guide to making the Law your own, I suggest Losier’s book.  In Law of Attraction, he offers this advice:

  • Identify your desire.  To make the Law work for you, start by being clear about what you want.  Remove your focus from what you don’t want, and visualize precisely what you do want to bring into your life.

  • Give your desire attention. Use words to give attention, energy and focus to your new desires. Write out a clear, honest statement about what you want. Keep working on your statement until it feels true for you.

  • Allow your desire to come into being. Avoid the tendency to indulge in limiting beliefs that may block the path to achievement. For example, if your desire is to get a job promotion, fight recurring thoughts like, “they will never let me have it because I don’t have an advanced degree.”

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